When I think of someone who I enjoy talking to and communicating with, I would have to say that my husband comes to mind. He is the person who I confide in on a daily basis and the one that I share my inner most concerns with. He is an effective communicative partner because of the way that he listens and remembers. He gives me his undivided attention and even though we have very different points of view on a lot of different topics, he takes to time to try to understand where I'm coming from. It's his ability to listen intently that I appreciate the most. He makes me feel like I am being heard. He doesn’t try to fix issues or solve my problems. He shares his insights and points of view in a way that helps me to look at situations from a different perspective.
As a busy mom, I find myself constantly multi-tasking. In doing so I often find myself juggling many things at once. If I were to choose something about the way my husband communicates that I would want to emulate, it would be his ability to listen in a way that makes who I am communicating with feel valued and important. I would remember what they have said and follow up with them about it at another time so that they know what they have shared with me was heard.
It is awesome that you were able to pick your husband as a great communicator. I don't know that to many women would be able to say that. I too communicate often with my husband. However, he may need to take a few lessons from your husband, oh I may need to as well. Does he do couples counseling? I think you mentioned the key elements to effective communication, making the person feel valued and important as you truly listen to them. I agree the follow up is critical to continued communication. Thank you for sharing I will try to hold on to this great advise in my daily communications.
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ReplyDeleteI too feel my husband is an effective communicator. As a parent we tend to have to do a lot of multitasking so sometimes when we are communicating when we multitask we may not listen as effectively as we probably would had we just been talking without doing anything else. I feel listening to the person who you are talking and communicating with is important as well as putting their feelings into account.
It is wonderful to hear that so many confide in their husband and to know that they are really good communicators. I wasn't fortunate enough to have a husband that was a good communicator. That was one of the downfalls of my marriage, but I have learned and will take a different approach to communicating in the next relationship if the opportunity presents itself.
ReplyDeleteYes I agree with you Comesha. I enjoy talking with my spouse, but many times our communication isn't the best. This is something I hope will change as we get older. Megan that is awesome that you too have this type of relationship. I hope that I am a great listener and communicator and if not that I will learn something from this class. Thanks for sharing!!
ReplyDeleteMegan glad to be back in a course with you!
ReplyDeleteI value the same thing in my boyfriend he is a great listener and I think that I could be a more effective communicator if I listen more and not wait for my turn to just speak. We can learn so much in so little time if we actively listen to others.
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ReplyDeleteI think that is probably the most important communicator you can have in your life and that is your husband he is your life partner and it is great that he listens and remembers and tries to understand your view on things that is very important and necessary to keep that bond going and it is a definite blessing to have as well.
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